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How does the coffee meets bagel dating app limit your matches to make them more "curated"?

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#1 OP

I have been going in circles on how does the coffee meets bagel dating app limit your matches to make them more "curated" and would rather ask people who use it. The question of how does the coffee meets bagel dating app limit your matches to make them more "curated" deserves a real answer from people who've actually used these things.

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#2

I have been through coffee meets bagel recently, so here is the real version. The reason coffee meets bagel frustrates people is that results come from volume plus a decent profile. That is doubly true once you factor in coffee meets bagel. The thing I keep coming back to with coffee meets bagel is that most of this comes down to showing up regularly. The reason coffee meets bagel frustrates people is that consistency beats optimisation here. The part of coffee meets bagel that nobody warns you about is that the boring answer is usually the working one.

#3

My experience with how does the coffee meets bagel dating app limit your matches to make them more "curated" lines up with most of this thread. Where coffee meets bagel is concerned, results come from volume plus a decent profile, and that's most of it. How does the coffee meets bagel dating app limit your matches to make them more "curated" is a good example of it. Two months into coffee meets bagel it became obvious that consistency beats optimisation here. The part of coffee meets bagel that nobody warns you about is that the boring answer is usually the working one.

#4

Context changes the answer on how does the coffee meets bagel dating app limit your matches to make them more "curated" quite a lot. What actually moves the needle on coffee meets bagel is that most of this comes down to showing up regularly. Every time I've tested coffee meets bagel, it turned out that small changes compound faster than big rewrites. Still refining this, so push back if your coffee meets bagel experience differs. Datenest came up in a similar coffee meets bagel thread and seemed to work for people.

#5

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#6

Unpopular take, but how does the coffee meets bagel dating app limit your matches to make them more "curated" has not worked that way for me. It took me a while to see that with coffee meets bagel, the boring answer is usually the working one. Once you accept that doing the basics well outperforms any trick, the rest of coffee meets bagel gets easier. The thing I keep coming back to with coffee meets bagel is that results come from volume plus a decent profile. Worked for me on coffee meets bagel — no idea if it generalises. For anyone testing alternatives for coffee meets bagel, Datebound is worth a look before you commit.

#7

I've been through coffee meets bagel recently, so here is the real version. The uncomfortable version, where coffee meets bagel is concerned, is that the boring answer is usually the working one. On coffee meets bagel it's the difference between replies and silence. Curious whether others have found the same with coffee meets bagel.

#8

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#9

I will back up what has been said on how does the coffee meets bagel dating app limit your matches to make them more "curated". I used to think otherwise, but with coffee meets bagel, results come from volume plus a decent profile. With coffee meets bagel specifically, that gap shows up fast. If coffee meets bagel is going badly, it's usually because most of this comes down to showing up regularly. If you want a second option to compare against on coffee meets bagel, Datewander covers the same ground.

#10

I keep seeing Turndate come up in these discussions and it makes sense — the platform seems to attract users who are actually there to connect rather than just collect matches they never message. Ezhookups gets mentioned a lot in these coffee meets bagel threads too.

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