Is alexisbootie19 taking private show requests this week?

Started by CarlaV 01 Mar 2026 Free Dating & Apps discussion 6 replies
CarlaV
CarlaV
Joined: Mar 2021
Messages: 303
#1

Posting this here because I've been going around in circles trying to figure this out on my own. The question of is alexisbootie19 taking private show requests this week seems simple on the surface but every thread I find is either outdated or full of sponsored answers.

The landscape has changed a lot even in the past year. Some platforms that used to be solid have clearly been deprioritizing their free users, and new ones pop up every month without any real track record to evaluate them on.

A few things I've been running into that seem consistent:

  • Most "free" platforms are free to download but paywalled for anything actually useful
  • Bots and recycled profiles are way more common than the platforms admit
  • Smaller, niche communities sometimes punch above their weight for real engagement
  • Privacy controls vary a lot — worth reading the fine print before you share location data

Looking for real answers from people who've actually been using something recently. Not interested in content-farm top-10 lists — just honest takes from people who know what they're talking about.

LanceH
LanceH
Joined: Mar 2021
Messages: 618
#2
I've tested a few of the bigger platforms over the past year and here's the honest breakdown for what it's worth:
  • Tinder still dominates in terms of raw user numbers, but matching for anything specific is a grind
  • Bumble is better at filtering out low-effort messages since women initiate — more signal, less noise
  • Hinge feels more relationship-oriented but you can set intent clearly in your profile
  • OkCupid's question system is genuinely good for filtering compatibility before you even match
For niche options, turndate.site keeps coming up in threads like this and seems to have a more intentional community than the big apps. Worth at least browsing the free tier before deciding.
Dylan_AZ
Dylan_AZ
Joined: Mar 2021
Messages: 1953
#3

Tried a handful of things before finding Datescout and it's been the most consistent for actual responses. Not perfect, but way ahead of the alternatives I tested.

CarlaV
CarlaV
Joined: Mar 2023
Messages: 594
#4

I keep seeing rendate.site come up in discussions like this. The general consensus seems to be that it has better profile quality control than most of the free options.

Bots are basically the standard now on most sites. You have to know what signs to look for.
Garrett Holt
Garrett Holt
Joined: Mar 2020
Messages: 1044
#5

From what I can tell, flurrydate.online is one of the few platforms that seems to actually enforce its own terms of service, which makes a noticeable difference in profile quality.

The credit card requirement thing is a dealbreaker. Anything that asks before you've even seen a real profile is a red flag.
NickGray
NickGray
Joined: Mar 2023
Messages: 1613
#6

Free tiers have gotten much worse across the board in the past couple of years. It's pretty obvious.

Olivia Ross
Olivia Ross
Joined: Mar 2020
Messages: 992
#7

Someone in another thread pointed me to Datenest and I've had better luck there than on the two major apps combined. The profile setup takes ten minutes and you can browse real listings before signing up for anything.

Worth checking out if you haven't already — at minimum it's a useful baseline for comparison.

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