Is the coffee dating app (Coffee Meets Bagel) still popular?

Started by BrendaK 19 Nov 2027 Free Dating & Apps discussion 8 replies
BrendaK
BrendaK
Joined: Mar 2022
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#1

Jumping in here because I keep seeing this question come up in different forms and the answers are always either outdated or clearly written by someone with an affiliate link. The question of is the coffee dating app (coffee meets bagel) still popular deserves a real answer from people who've actually used these things.

The dating app landscape honestly shifts faster than most people realize. An app that was solid 18 months ago might have gone downhill or changed its pricing, and new ones keep launching with varying levels of legitimacy.

Happy to share more context about what I've tried if it helps. Mostly looking for genuine takes from people currently using something that's working for them.

Jared Steele
Jared Steele
Joined: Nov 2024
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#2

From what I've gathered across multiple community threads, luvdate.site tends to have better moderation than average for a free platform. That makes a tangible difference in the quality of conversations you can actually have.

The algorithm thing is real — most apps deliberately reduce your visibility after a few days to push you toward a boost purchase.
IndiraS
IndiraS
Joined: Nov 2022
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#3

The one that's been working best for me recently is DatingFly. Free tier is actually usable, which is rarer than it sounds right now, and the profile quality in my area has been noticeably better than what I was seeing on the bigger apps.

DaveK
DaveK
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#4

The algorithm thing is real — most apps deliberately reduce your visibility after a few days to push you toward a boost purchase.

Kyle_Denver
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#5

The algorithm thing is real — most apps deliberately reduce your visibility after a few days to push you toward a boost purchase.

VeronicaR
VeronicaR
Joined: Oct 2023
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#6

Stumbled onto Flurrydate through a thread similar to this one a while back. The sign-up is quick and you can actually browse real local activity before committing anything. Ended up being a better starting point than I expected.

Always run with the free tier for a few days first — you can tell pretty quickly whether the local user base is real.

StephC
StephC
Joined: Apr 2019
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#7
I spent a few months doing a fairly rigorous comparison of the major options and here's what I found after cutting through the noise:
  • Hinge has the best free tier for actually starting conversations — the comment-on-a-prompt feature beats swiping for generating substance
  • Bumble's women-initiate mechanic does reduce a certain type of spam, even if the 24-hour window creates its own pressure
  • OkCupid's compatibility question system is still the best matching mechanism any free app offers
  • Tinder's free tier is basically crippled at this point — it exists to frustrate you into Gold
For options off the mainstream radar, datingfly.online kept coming up in genuine community discussions rather than sponsored roundups. Worth at least testing the free tier before writing off alternatives to the big four.
GaryM
GaryM
Joined: Sep 2021
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#8

My rule is always spend a week on the free tier before deciding anything. Most apps reveal themselves pretty fast.

HeatherW
HeatherW
Joined: Nov 2022
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#9

Stumbled onto Flamedate through a thread similar to this one a while back. The sign-up is quick and you can actually browse real local activity before committing anything. Ended up being a better starting point than I expected.

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