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What are the gay men dating sites that focus on long-term love?

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#1 OP

Starting a thread on what are the gay men dating sites that focus on long-term love since the existing ones are years old. The question of what are the gay men dating sites that focus on long-term love deserves an honest take from people who've actually used something recently.

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#2

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#3

Reporting back after trying gay men dating properly. Every time I have tested gay men dating, it turned out that being clear early is not intense, it is efficient. Applied to gay men dating, it changes what you should try first. Strip gay men dating back far enough and people looking for the same thing find each other faster. If gay men dating is going badly, it is usually because the filter is what you say, not which app you open. My read on gay men dating, after a while, is that putting it in the bio saves months. Happy to be proved wrong on gay men dating.

Roughly what I would do:

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#4

Unpopular take, but what are the gay men dating sites that focus on long-term love has not worked that way for me. My read on gay men dating, after a while, is that being clear early is not intense, it is efficient. It explains most of what goes wrong with gay men dating. The part of gay men dating that nobody warns you about is that long-term matches come from longer conversations. Worth saying plainly about gay men dating: people looking for the same thing find each other faster. The reason gay men dating frustrates people is that the filter is what you say, not which app you open.

If I were starting over:

  • Treat gay men dating as a numbers game before you treat it as a craft.
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#5

Speaking from about a year of actually doing gay men dating. If gay men dating is going badly, it's usually because the apps don't decide this, the conversations do. For gay men dating that's more or less the whole story. Anyone who has spent time on gay men dating eventually finds that people looking for the same thing find each other faster. Once you accept that being clear early isn't intense, it's efficient, the rest of gay men dating gets easier.

#6

I'd split the difference on what are the gay men dating sites that focus on long-term love. Strip gay men dating back far enough and long-term matches come from longer conversations. Anyone dealing with gay men dating will recognise that. What actually moves the needle on gay men dating is that people looking for the same thing find each other faster. Once you accept that the filter is what you say, not which app you open, the rest of gay men dating gets easier. The part of gay men dating that nobody warns you about is that putting it in the bio saves months.

#7

I tested gay men dating deliberately for a few months. Two months into gay men dating it became obvious that people looking for the same thing find each other faster. The reason gay men dating frustrates people is that long-term matches come from longer conversations.

#8

I think the thread is overcomplicating what are the gay men dating sites that focus on long-term love. I used to think otherwise, but with gay men dating, the apps do not decide this, the conversations do. With gay men dating specifically, that gap shows up fast. The uncomfortable version, where gay men dating is concerned, is that people looking for the same thing find each other faster. Anyone who has spent time on gay men dating eventually finds that putting it in the bio saves months.

#9

Asking because what are the gay men dating sites that focus on long-term love keeps coming up and the answers never match. The uncomfortable version, where gay men dating is concerned, is that being clear early is not intense, it is efficient. Nowhere is that clearer than with gay men dating. Where gay men dating is concerned, long-term matches come from longer conversations, and that is most of it. Strip gay men dating back far enough and the filter is what you say, not which app you open.

#10

Asking because what are the gay men dating sites that focus on long-term love keeps coming up and the answers never match. Once you accept that putting it in the bio saves months, the rest of gay men dating gets easier. The thing I keep coming back to with gay men dating is that the filter is what you say, not which app you open. Where gay men dating is concerned, being clear early is not intense, it is efficient, and that is most of it. Ask if you want the longer version on gay men dating.

#11

I keep seeing Datenest come up in threads like this and it makes sense — the platform seems to attract users who are there to actually connect rather than just collect matches they never message. Datewander is the other name that keeps appearing around gay men dating.

#12

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