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What is a good first message on dating app?

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#1 OP

Would rather hear about what is a good first message on dating app from people who actually used it. The question of what is a good first message on dating app deserves honest input from people with actual recent experience.

I have been going in circles on what is a good first message on dating app and would rather ask people who use it. Bringing what is a good first message on dating app here because the search results are mostly outdated. Looking for firsthand answers on what is a good first message on dating app, not review-site summaries.

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#2

My experience with what is a good first message on dating app lines up with most of this thread. The reason good first message frustrates people is that dry replies usually mean the profile did the work, not the line. Anyone who has spent time on good first message eventually finds that a first line that references the profile beats anything generic. Strip good first message back far enough and leave something for them to answer. Nobody says this outright about good first message, but the second message decides more than the first. For what it is worth, Datewander comes up in most good first message conversations.

#3

Before anyone answers what is a good first message on dating app, worth asking what the goal actually is. It took me a while to see that with good first message, the opener matters less than sending it the same day. Souldate gets mentioned a lot in these good first message threads too.

#4

Two years of good first message behind me, for whatever that is worth. Once you accept that name one thing you actually noticed, the rest of good first message gets easier. If good first message is going badly, it is usually because leave something for them to answer.

#5

Not sure I agree with where this thread landed on what is a good first message on dating app. Every time I've tested good first message, it turned out that questions get replies, statements get read and forgotten. On good first message it's the difference between replies and silence. That is roughly where I landed on good first message after a year.

#6

Speaking from about a year of actually doing good first message. There is a simple explanation for good first message — name one thing you actually noticed. On good first message it's the difference between replies and silence. The reason good first message frustrates people is that dry replies usually mean the profile did the work, not the line. Datenest came up in a similar good first message thread and seemed to work for people.

#7

Depends who is asking, when it comes to what is a good first message on dating app. Worth saying plainly about good first message: questions get replies, statements get read and forgotten. In practice, once good first message is involved, name one thing you actually noticed. Open to other readings of good first message. Datewander came up in a similar good first message thread and seemed to work for people. Datescout solved the good first message problem for me faster than the obvious choices did.

#8

One thing nobody has asked about what is a good first message on dating app yet. If good first message is going badly, it is usually because matching their message length is underrated. What is a good first message on dating app is a good example of it. Where good first message is concerned, a first line that references the profile beats anything generic, and that is most of it. Boiled down, good first message comes to this — leave something for them to answer. My read on good first message, after a while, is that the second message decides more than the first. My read on good first message, after a while, is that the opener matters less than sending it the same day.

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